by Claudia Segre
THE BLOGGER’S CORNER. Her story embodies a moment that precedes many of the stories that fill the statistics every year: the moment when a woman realises that what she is experiencing is not love but control; not passion but devaluation; not destiny but manipulation.
A global triumph, the result of three years of work by an established young artist who sings in 13 languages and carries on the history and example of women who spread a bold message of female mysticism. In an era dominated by artificial intelligence, this message highlights the clear superiority of a living and authentic humanism, capable of conveying strong and clear communications, particularly regarding the cultural change needed to combat violence against women and girls.
When art intertwines with truth, it often anticipates what society struggles to recognise. This is the case with the song “La Perla” from Rosalía’s excellent album “Lux”, recently at the centre of debate thanks to the incisive analysis of psychologist Antonio Vicente. In his video, Vicente examines the song’s lyrics word by word, revealing experiences shared by many women: the cycle of narcissism, emotional manipulation and the invisible emotional prison in which one can find oneself trapped without realising it.
“La Perla” does not merely tell the story of a love affair that has ended; it is an elegant and ruthless critique of the narcissistic behaviour of some men. Rosalía describes a partner who oscillates between idealisation and devaluation, between seduction and control, between intimacy and sudden abandonment. This portrait resonates with thousands of experiences because narcissism never manifests itself as explicit violence: it creeps in gradually, grows silently, confuses and isolates. It is a subtle but deeply rooted form of psychological, economic and physical violence.
Vicente clarifies with rare lucidity: Rosalía’s emotional narrative represents a precise mapping of narcissistic behaviour. However, there is an even more significant aspect. At the end of her musical story, Rosalía manages to free herself. She breaks the vicious circle. She regains her self-esteem. She rebuilds her own living space. This is the real crux of the matter: the possibility of liberation.
And this is precisely where the reflection on 25 November, the International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women, comes from. Rosalía’s story embodies a moment that precedes many of the stories that fill the statistics every year: the moment when a woman realises that what she is experiencing is not love but control; not passion but devaluation; not destiny but manipulation.
Gender-based violence rarely begins with a slap; it often begins with derogatory words or isolating actions. It is characterised by oppressive habits or statements such as “without me you are nothing”, uttered in a thousand different ways. Many women struggle to recognise these signs because they consider them normal rather than indicators of violence.
For this reason, on 25 November, we should also learn from music: a song can serve as a lens through which to observe the culture in which we live, the relationships we tolerate and the emotional models we pass on to future generations. It can initiate conversations that often remain unspoken.
The message expressed by Rosalía – amplified by Vicente’s analysis – reminds us that freedom comes from awareness. The first step in escaping violence is knowing how to name it specifically; recognising toxic behaviour can save lives, while autonomy – whether emotional, economic or psychological – represents the real strength needed to start over.
On this day dedicated to the memory of suffering, but also to future hope, we should ask ourselves how to stop not only acts of violence, but also how to prevent what precedes them: the imbalance of power between the sexes, emotional and economic dependence, and the silent acceptance of self-deprecation. Because every woman capable of saying “enough” – as in the song – becomes a pearl re-emerging from the ocean depths of suffering. And every society ready to support her takes a fundamental step towards a more equitable future for us all.
